Happy or Hopeless Housewives
Are we Happy or Hopeless Housewives?
There is a strong Mind and Body connection. Stress can be one of the strongest health hazards. Keep reading for tips on dealing with stress and learning to love yourself.
Girls, I have a problem. I am constantly stressed and worried. Oddly enough, not about myself, but about how there are other housewives out there who are always stressed and worried! I know that sometimes bad things happen, and our minds and bodies react to those stresses naturally, but we worry and stress so much that it’s seriously affecting our health!
Did you know that when you are under stress, your T-Cells (these fight infection and keep your immune system healthy) are supressed? So whenever you get overwhelmed, your immune system actually begins to shut down leaving you open to infection, viruses, and bacteria! Girls, we need to calm down.
Stress is natural, but how we deal with it isn’t. Meditation, yoga, exercise, laughing are all ways that we need to deal with things. Our bodies are connected with our minds. If our mind and spirit aren’t healthy, then our bodies aren’t going to be. So what are the first steps to a happier, healthier housewife?
Create a mantra. Anything that you can say to yourself first thing when you wake up, last thing before you go to bed, and most importantly, when the going gets tough. It can be anything. An inspirational quote, a self esteem booster, something that makes you laugh. Here are a few of mine:
- “Courage is not the lack of fear, but acting in spite of it.” This mantra is a quote by Mark Twain and it got me through so many things in my life. School, broken friendships and broken hearts, and even deaths in the family. Not to say that I didn’t stress and feel the overwhelming urge to scream, but it was something I could say to remind myself that I am strong.
- “I am happy, beautiful, intellegent and wonderful!” Something very simple. This is my self esteem booster. I am sick of everyone constantly hating everything about themselves. In fact, I think all of us need to take a good look in the mirror and learn to love what we see. No matter what shape or size! Girls, I’m 230 pounds, full of cellulite and stretch marks, old acne scars and hair on my chin. But do you know what I see when I look in the mirror. A hot little redhead with a killer rack and a behind to match! Why do I see that? Because I choose to. Because it’s true.
- “Nothing will go right today, so I will laugh and be amused.” Okay, so at first it’s a little on the downside, but if we can’t laugh then what good is there in life? We expect too much of ourselves and rarely give ourselves a break. I remember my first year of marriage crying over a meatloaf I dropped on the floor. I bawled for hours. Nowadays, I just laugh at myself. Why? Because it’s not the end of the world. Because tomorrow I still get to wake up next to a handsome husband who loves me, and I still get to eat the food I love, enjoy the things that make me happy, and have a roof over my head. Yes we should cook and clean, but don’t let those things make you miserable. Clean because it makes you happy to have a clean home. Cook because you love being in the kitchen, and the looks on your families faces when they bite into your creation.
We are Happy Housewives! Let’s show the world that we are Happy! Be kind to yourself, sit back and relax once in a while, and always remember to laugh.
I don’t know why, many many many people asked me “what do you normally do at home ?” and said “you’re not that busy !!”.
I was EXTREMELY UPSET, esp during those 4 yrs that I had to move 4 times and 3 yrs after that – we had 4 car accidents in 1 yr, despite those tiresome houseworks – take care of 2 teenagers, 2 cars, troublesome pool, hard-to-maintenance garden, full-of-problem old house…..
It seems that they always think a housewife got nothing to do !!!!
ya people in any country take housewives as granted. they would say oh u stay at home. u have ample time to do things leisurely. some would say. oops! i cannot stay at home as you, it’s so boring. why u dnt restart working,? very few would say oh it’s great to be a housewife…i would have liked to be in your place… many people over the
world think that housewives are unproductive on financial and any other level of life.
hello darla shine, may i kindly make a request? can we organize a global networking of housewives in the world?
as a housewife, i have just to be at chores, my husband runs errands himself, pay bills, but rarely do i get pocket money and very few. on top we live as strangers not couples. he doesn’t like me to go out. what i am for him finally? i dnt know,
to end with, my husband has a controlling nature, he tells me which chores to do or not? as if i know nothing. he is not open and communicative, i feel dejected in every way. today i feel sad for having quit my job 15 years back since marriage.
awaiting for your kind advice darla shine.
Oh Shiria, how did I miss this? I do have a community for housewive. You need to join my club. There are thousands of housewives who are members and who will give you great advice. Some forum areas are locked down to membership so women may speak freely. It is free. Hit the club button and become a member.
As for society thinking we have nothing to do? That is a joke. I think it is nonsense. And I just laugh it off. It is easier to go to work in an office than to stay home and take care of the children. We all know how full our days are. And really, is it so exciting to be in an office, or answering to a boss? If you can stay home it’s a great gig. And if you have the freedom to enjoy it you are really lucky.
I’ve worked outside the home and inside, and outside is a vacation compared to being a housewife. I loved getting dressed up, doing computer work only, eating out, getting a paycheck. It all became impossible when the second kid was born. My check was almost exactly equal to what day care for two cost, and there was much more work at home.
After the kids were a bit older I took some temp jobs, and for the time they lasted, it became clear to me what a nasty lifestyle it was!!! Too much takeout, house a mess, kids doing what they wanted since mom was too tired to notice, unopened mail piled up, collapsing into bed and dragging myself out. I became really grateful that I could change this, and have mostly worked at home for years.
It means our home is in reasonable order (I’m no Martha Stewart!!), we eat almost no processed food, things are calm and well-run here. We’ve had less materially, but no one cares. My son is almost out of his teens and just graduated high school, and for 4 years this house has been Teen Central. They love to hang out here, and I am relieved that I know where they are and what they are doing. It’s hard to know when you’re miles away all day.
i am now a happy housewife who enjoys doing chores and attending to my 13 years old only daughter well. everything much better now. but which jobs i may undertake from home so that in any adverse circumstance the future may be secure? so far our hubs are
with us or still alive we rely upon them financially then afterwards? m i don’t get pocket money for myself but hub runs all errands himself.
any advice darla or from anyone?