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If your house is a mess, so is your life

January 3, 2017

You need to be on a schedule and to get organized if you want your life to get easier. If you are constantly playing ‘catch-up’ in your home you will feel overwhelmed. It is easy to get yourself together. No matter how far you have let it go, you can start now and yes, the counter is under there somewhere.

Pick a room today and begin getting your life under control. When your home is clean and beautiful you feel better. I don’t care how many women can argue that they just don’t have time to clean, the fact is if you do a little each day you won’t feel so resentful of the job. And hey, like a friend of mine said when I was whining about doing the laundry, “what are you complaining about? You have a washer and dryer.” It was a simple statement and so true. We could be dragging the clothes to the laundromat or worse yet, dragging them around in a plastic bag on the streets. So, let’s be happy we’re not homeless and let’s get our houses together. I am not expecting you to be a slave to your home. In fact I know if you follow my schedule you will have the afternoons free to do what you want so what are you waiting for. Let’s get moving.

Before you can get on schedule you have to do a few things. Declutter and declutter. We collect so much junk over the years. Get rid of it. We hold on to clothes we know we will never wear again, get rid of it. We buy a lot of things we don’t need, get rid of it. Stop putting this off. Once your house is clean and organized you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.


12 Responses to “If your house is a mess, so is your life”
  1. Pumpkin says:

    Oh Darla, you are so correct! I know I feel very satisfied when my house is in order, everything else in my life falls in place. And yes, we are blessed that we have a washer and dryer. There is no need to complain about laundry. We do not have to light a fire, heat a bucket of water, and do the wash near the creek!

    Once a year, I donate clothes and general ‘I don’t need that anymore’ stuff to Goodwill, Salvation Army, churches, etc. and not only am I getting rid of things I don’t use, but I am also helping someone that may be in need. It’s a win-win situation!

  2. Darla Shine says:

    When your house is in order and beautiful it makes you feel so much better. I hear from women all the time who are struggling to play catch up every day. Always doing laundry or picking up toys and they are tired and annoyed. Get on my schedule, take time for yourself each day, and start living. You can enjoy your life and you can have an organized home. Plus, I take great pride in how nice my house looks. I want everything perfect.

  3. Jen says:

    What is your schedule? For instance, my friend has ‘toilet tuesday’ ~ do you do certain chores on certain days to keep organized? That’s what I need. Someone to TELL me what to do so I can get in the habit of actually doing it. With 3 kids, (7, 13, and 17) plus I am in college full time ~ my house is …..um suffering? The clutter is well maintained but the deep cleaning ~ oy vey! I do make sure I lysol bathrooms, toilets and of course the kitchen everyday but oy the dust and mopping ~ can we say slacker! Spell it out for me mama! I’m in the game ~ ready to play ~ get organized ~ loud proud and ready to take back my house!!!
    * I just need a little push


  4. Danielle Hillard says:

    I got your book on Friday from Amazon I finished about 2 mins ago. I must say thank you for opening my eyes and slapping me in the face with a big ol’ wake-up call. I needed it for my sanity which in turn will dramatically affect my children and Husband for the better! You put into words so many things I have been feeling for the last 6 years and 2 children. I have been swearing to get on a housekeeping schedule but with how I have been trying to chase my tail and just “keep up” I had no idea where to start. Well today is a perfect day to start. Monday (new week) November (new month) 1st (day with (your) tools in my arsenal). I threw out my everyday whole house over haul since afterall I would just see it trashed by days end by my kids, husband and SELF’s bad habits. Your scheduale from the book is my new “Housekeeping Bible” I got up this morning and did your out of bed routine and I didnt have to scream once at my kids to get them out of the house to school! I actually felt good cause I had a “face on” even if I was just taking my daughter to school it made a world of diffrence on my attitude towards my kids and my mood in general! You are AMAZEING!!
    You know looking back on it I have “complained” about how I clean all day, how my family “un-does” everything I do but now I see it is mostly due to my disorganization and I actually feel relatively organized but not in the right ways I now see! You have turned my life around. Thank you for putting my life into words since I couldn’t! I can’t wait to look at my life in 1 month. I would bet all of my cleaning supplies on the fact that it will be night and day different from yesterday morning (which was crazy, do you have any idea how hard it is to make breakfast, lunch and dinner along with decorating children for Halloween while having a book glued to your hand, one eye reading while the other mans the homefront! That was me yesterday with your book but that is the last crazed Holiday for these Hillard’s thanks to you, my friend!!

  5. Delia Hill says:

    Ms. Danielle,

    I am agreeing with you very strongly also. I picked this book up by chance, after all the other books I have and this is the one. Ms. Darla Thank YOu. I am listening as a stay home mom of one. Always playing catch up and complaining about everything when I have to pick up and rearrange what I just cleaned the day before. When everyone,(husband, and daughter)leave out in the morning, I just turn on my music, pick up any and everything–no complaints– and be happy I have a famiy, a home, and a washing machine. I am going to take baby steps, but I think with prayer and finding my happy place i will do it.

  6. Terri says:

    Boy did you hit the nail on the head. If your house is in a mess so is your life and when you get it cleaned up and organized you do feel like a weight lifted off of you. Great Stuff.

  7. Darla Shine says:

    Thank you. I am so happy to hear I have helped you. Join my forums. Chat with me and other moms like us. Jen, my schedule is on this site someplace. Look on the club page. Remember though it is all about your attitude. Look at this like your job. Get up, make your bed, get yourself together and start your day. If you get organized and on schedule you will free up a lot of time for yourself.

  8. Deidre Johnson says:

    Very true! Speaking of this: A few years ago you posted a list of how to get organized. A daily list as well as a weekly / monthly “deep clean / organize” list. Is it still on this site? If not, could you post it again? : ) I am not naturally organized, so it takes work for me, but it’s well worth it! A list is a “must” for me! lol! : ) I am doing well with this lately, but I’d still love to have that list again!

  9. Deidre Johnson says:

    Never mind, I found it! lol! : ) Thanks!

  10. Diane Brennan says:

    Hi Darla,

    7 years ago I found you. I was a stay at home Mom of one boy and married with a husband. I loved your book, ideas and all the helpful hints. I just want you to know that now…my son is 11, my husband decided to leave, and I had to go back to work. Still, I put my son first. I reduced my hours to be able to pick him up from school and his father takes care of him along with me so I guess you can say we are successfully coparenting. I recently was thinking of this site and logged on again. It made me happy to see that you are still out there offering support to other moms. We all need it 🙂

  11. Darla Shine says:

    Diane, I am sorry your husband left but it sounds like you both are doing a great job co-parenting. I am so happy to hear that you were able to arrange your work hours around your son. If all of the employers would allow moms to have flexible hours more women could work part time around their children. You know being a happy housewife is more of a state of mind than anything else. I am in the forums often so come visit there too. xoxo Darla

  12. MilkMaid says:

    Thanks Darla,

    I just got your book by chance…and I am only in the second chapter and I LOVE it!! Thanks for the wake-up call.

    I need to find your list..and become disciplined…

    Thanks for bringing respect and pride back into the word House Wife, though I am a Farm Wife! Looking forward to the forums..

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