Wednesday, January 23, 2019

You don’t have to look like a housewife

July 1, 2018

I know when the babies come we get into the habit of walking around in our pajamas all day. Snap out of it!
I will give you six months to hang around the house but that’s it. At some point you need to wake up from the abyss and get yourself together.

Now, a lot of moms are getting pretty freaked out about this. As if asking moms to actually clean themselves up is so bizarre. Like it’s a privilege to walk around with no make-up, a flannel shirt and your husband’s sweat pants. No, it’s not something to be proud of.

Most of the moms on this site want to be the best they can be. Yes, that includes trying to look the best that you can. Your appearance is something to take pride in. Just like how your home looks. It is a reflection on you.

Let some moms walk around looking like house frumps. Fine if they insist. But if you are here, if you are a member of this happy housewives club than I know you want more. I know you want to look great, to feel sexy, and to have pride in your appearance.

For sure there are days when we all want to hang around the house in our sweats. I have those days. Plenty of them. You know I am a hermit. But in my pajamas all day, no.


9 Responses to “You don’t have to look like a housewife”
  1. Sarah Schull says:

    Hello ladies! I just wanted to say that you are wonderful! I have 3 children (ages 6,5, and 6mths) I gave myself that 6mth frumpy phase and am now ready to lose all of the weight, look good, and feel great again! Thanks for all the help, ideas, and support!

  2. My daughter is 7 months old and I have finally managed to shower regularly (cringe, I know, but it helps she now sleeps 6 hours at a time at night). I only have 10 pounds left to lose, though before I got pregnant I would have been happy to be a little more toned. Joining the YMCA next week as they have free babysitting, and my daughter is now old enough where I feel comfortable leaving her for an hour or so. She does great at our church’s nursery, so I think it’s time.

  3. Charlotte says:

    I have just started getting dressed before the postman arrives ( i was getting embaressed at my appearence when i collected parcels) and i am beginning to manage my hair a little better (ir requires A LOT of attention or it turns afro!!) now i just need to start applying a little make-up to look more alert….i tend to jsut forget though, i never was much of a make-up wearer, but running around after my little one is starting to take it’s toll!

    So as well as needing to haul out my make-up brushes i need to over-haul my post baby body!! I must admit it has NEVER been in any kind of attractive condition, i tend to enjoy my food :-/ so now for the healthy kick start as i DO NOT want my son following my habits!!

    Wish me luck please ladies….there is a lot to loose


  4. I found that I feel so much better about myself and actually have more energy if I get up just a little earlier that the kids (I know, sometimes that is sooooo hard!) and put myself together. A quick shower and just a bit of make-up (maybe just some lip gloss and mascara somedays) and some clothes other than PJs and sweatpants, can make all the difference in my day. Now, I am ready if someone comes to the door or if I need to run out. I feel more confident and more like taking care of myself in other areas, like diet and exercise.

  5. Jennifer Wade says:

    My daughter is 18 months now, and I am still having a hard time excepting that I am a housewife. With my son I always worked. Now, I am home. It’s definitely a huge struggle for me to get in the housewife mode. As far as not wearing pajamas all day, I have to say that I am guilty. I only get dressed on days I know I’m leaving the house. It’s kind of sad and I really need to stop and pamper myself more.

  6. Emily says:

    I agree with Jennifer Wade. My daughter is the same age and I am just now getting out of the funk of wearing pj like clothes all day. I never wore make up before I got married so I don’t feel bad for not putting it on now.
    I know I’ve been married for a few years but I am really just now starting to get the hang of being a housewife because before my daughter was born I worked.
    My husband is on vacation down in mexico to visit his family for a week and I plan on deep cleaning the house and purging all the junk and selling old stuff. Then maybe I won’t have as much to clean up and have more time to make me pretty? lol. it’s not too much to wish don’t you think?

  7. Dee Vanover says:

    I don’t think you have to have young children to fall into sloppy housewife mode, as I recently quit working to be a housewife after many years and my children are all grown now. I find it’s a little harder to make yourself get up and presentable when given the option at all! My husband works all day long, and after being an office manager myself for so many years, I know what it’s like to come home tired. The environment he walks into is one I want him to be happy to come home to, including looking at me! So while I don’t don work-wear or full makeup anymore, I find that his eyes light up when I’m at least clean, dressed and my hair done. Hair done NOW means perhaps just a neat ponytail! No more full makeup (unless we’re going out), so I just slap on a little base, powder, a little mascara and some lipgloss and he reacts like I’m a housewife ‘hottie’. My self esteem zooms!

  8. Stephanie says:

    I’m still having trouble with being a housewife. I have an 18th month old and I HVE NEVER been in the housewife roll. If that is my duty right now I don’t wana be horrible at it hopefully I can be better at it. I get stuck in the pj thing all the time my fiance works allll day and comes home till midnight so I find it hard to get into the routine of wearing makeup and everything since he comes home so seems kind of pointless to me. I guess I should start wearing it around the house just for myself :/

  9. Ashley says:

    I have 3 kids 5 and under. We never really leave the house. My husband takes the car to work 40 min away. So why get all dressed up to clean and wipe butts all day? I dont like feeling frumpy, but why put all that effort into looking nice just to get it messy and stay home all day?

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