Darla Shine
02-04-2009, 08:16 AM
Last week a California mom sent me an email. Here it is. Print it out. Keep it in your underwear drawer. Read it everytime you argue with your husband.
Dear Darla,
I heard your sweet voice on the radio today. You remind me of my favorite character, Darla, from the Little Rascals. I loved that show.
You said on your show 'be proud if you are a stay at home mom, it's a great gig if you can get it,' and I began to cry. Darla, I had it. I wasn't proud. I lost it all.
When I was in college I fell in love with a great guy. He was sweet and treated me like a queen. We got married right out of school and I got pregnant. Four babies in a row, a house, a dog and a husband seemed to be holding me back from who I was. I felt so resentful. I was mean to my husband and I was a crappy mother. I spent my time wishing for a career while letting the best years of my life slip between my fingers.
I am divorced now. My children are grown. I finally have my career. I am in a crappy office all day with people who could care less about me and a boss who talks down to me. I have to pay for a terrible apartment and I eat alone most nights.
I remember when I told my husband I wanted a divorce. He was destroyed. He begged me to stay. My mother told me not to leave him that I would never do better. But I wanted to have my independence. I listened to all my college girlfriends who were then unmarried telling me that I needed to go after my dreams.
I only wish your book was around twenty years ago. I wish women would stop this lie and admit it stinks to 'have to work.' I wish, I wish, I wish, I wish, but its too late for me.
So save the young married girls Darla. Be strong and get your message out there. Having a good man who loves you is the best gift of your life. I was too stupid to realize it.
God Bless you Darla.
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Dear Darla,
I heard your sweet voice on the radio today. You remind me of my favorite character, Darla, from the Little Rascals. I loved that show.
You said on your show 'be proud if you are a stay at home mom, it's a great gig if you can get it,' and I began to cry. Darla, I had it. I wasn't proud. I lost it all.
When I was in college I fell in love with a great guy. He was sweet and treated me like a queen. We got married right out of school and I got pregnant. Four babies in a row, a house, a dog and a husband seemed to be holding me back from who I was. I felt so resentful. I was mean to my husband and I was a crappy mother. I spent my time wishing for a career while letting the best years of my life slip between my fingers.
I am divorced now. My children are grown. I finally have my career. I am in a crappy office all day with people who could care less about me and a boss who talks down to me. I have to pay for a terrible apartment and I eat alone most nights.
I remember when I told my husband I wanted a divorce. He was destroyed. He begged me to stay. My mother told me not to leave him that I would never do better. But I wanted to have my independence. I listened to all my college girlfriends who were then unmarried telling me that I needed to go after my dreams.
I only wish your book was around twenty years ago. I wish women would stop this lie and admit it stinks to 'have to work.' I wish, I wish, I wish, I wish, but its too late for me.
So save the young married girls Darla. Be strong and get your message out there. Having a good man who loves you is the best gift of your life. I was too stupid to realize it.
God Bless you Darla.
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