Women are crazy....

[Darla Shine]

Do you know this is the first book I pitched. In fact I still own the domain.com and plan one day to still write that book. We are crazy aren't we? A bit hormonal, a bit on the edge, add our lust for gossip and revenge, and its a nasty combination. Of course we all have our sweet side. We can be kind, generous, compassionate, loving, and nurturing. We are great moms and wives, but are we always the best friends? I have learned one thing for sure and that is we women can turn on each other and quick. Why this happens? Well if I had that answer I would be writing my second book.

One of my biggest accomplishments besides my family as you know has been this site. I take great pride in the fact that I have created a community where women could come safely to talk about their role as a wife, mom and homemaker. Based on the philosophy in my book Happy Housewives, this club, is for the women who think like me. And we have been strong for three years. We have gone through some ups and downs. But over all we have been there through some major triumphs. We have shared births, deaths, marriages, divorces, moves, holidays, elections, tears of joy, and tears of sorrow.

I have tried my best over the past three years to keep all of you, 'my girls' happy. But that doesn't always happen. I cannot keep everyone happy. And not everyone is going to agree with me.

Over the past year, I have watched some major tension on the boards. I try to stay out of it for the most part. But over the course of the political election season it got pretty tense. Last summer we had some major issues over a disagreement between a member and a contributor. Some girls stay, others leave, and sometimes I have to deactivate an account. This has only happened four times over the past three years.

If women come into this forum with a lifestyle that I don't agree with, they cannot stay. I have gotten criticized for this but I promote happy housewives who have traditional marriages. So I deactivated the account of a woman who said she and he husband were swingers. Sorry, but no.

If someone gets nasty with other members I will deactivate their account. This only happened once a couple of years ago.

Over all we have not had any major incidences.

But this week, we encounter another glitch. And I know you are all wondering what is going on. I hate to discuss details of any member. The bottom line is this, just like in our real lives with real women, sometimes people just don't get along. They don't see eye to eye. Things are said that cause hurt feelings, and words cannot be taken back. Can you ever get past it? Maybe. But sometimes you can't. You just have to move on.

Last night Bill and I attended a Marine Corps dinner. It was amazing to be there. It was a fundraiser for the children of fallen Marines. And last night, being there with them was a huge slap of reality.

Right now the sun is shining and the birds are chirping. Spring is here. Life begins again. God is good.

[jennypenny]

I am so glad you wrote this blog post. Earlier, I was thinking about my lack of friends. (in real life) Over the past few years, I have connected with some real winners. I am not sure if it is my being naieve, or if people are just good at hiding their true colors.
Thank goodness for my online friends. I can't trust my own judgement in real life. Yes, Darla...women are crazy!

[Darla Shine]

Thanks for that laugh. I needed that. Hey, we are all crazy in our ways. But I for one feel like I do so much for everyone and I get nothing in return. I am so sick of it. I had one woman recently flip out on me, screaming, that I am trying to make her feel 'indebted' because I brought her to a concert. Is she out of her mind? I tried to be nice because I had extra tickets and I get accused of this? I am tired. I am tired of the catty, bitchy, women. It really makes me sad.

[lyndap]

I wonder if women were always this way or if this is a relatively new phenomenon. And yes, some females are crazy with a capital C.

[Jia]

Women being crazy is why I spent most of my teen years being friends with guys. To this day I've never had more than 2 close girlfriends at any given time (outside of the internet) because they are crazy and let's face it, I can be crazy sometimes too. But they're so much worse. LOL!

[jennypenny]

I think women have always been catty, bitchy, and crazy.

:surprised:

[Jia]

Jenny, you need to move somewhere where you don't have neighbors LOL! Poor girl! How horrible . . . and disgusting to boot.

Oh, and definitely crazy!

[jennypenny]

I know!!
The entire reason for my original rant...
I have no friends because I attract CRAZY!!



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[Knit Mom of 3]

Jia, I am the same way. I always have felt more comfortable around guys. That becomes a bit trickier when you're married though. I guess that is why I love coming here. I get to have "girlfriends".

[Knit Mom of 3]

Thank goodness Jenny! You have found your work from home opportunity of a lifetime!!!

[Dana]

(now back to my online porn career...you can find me at www.iseecrazypeople.com (http://www.iseecrazypeople.com))


:lol::lol:

[fletchmom2]

I too found comfort in being friends with guys. That's actually how me and my husband met. We were the best of friends before hooking up and one of my best friends today is a guy. But anyway, I have diverted myself from any women IRL because they are all crazy and the drama is unbelievable! My one "friend" that I recently cut ties with was convinced I was trying to ruin her life and started to spread nasty rumors about me. After that I just basically said screw it. You guys are my girlfriends and IRL my sister is the closest I have to a female companion. And it'll probably stay that way.

[helen]

I had 3 really close IRL friends. They ALL moved away! waah..since then I have been unable to find any irl friends. I have acquantances that I hang out with and see but nothing with substance. Honestly though I don't have time for the BS. I don't want to talk about the clouds in the sky...I want to talk about what is real..that is why I am so happy to have my online friends. Besides that I lean on my family.

Jenny your neighbor is whack girl. That is why my neighbors are fixing to be my mom and dad on one side and my sister on the other. They will drive me nuts but at least they are not crazy lol!

[Theresa]

I don't really have any best friends. That sounds so sad! I think there are a lot of crazy women out there. I have plenty of acquaintances, but none that I would consider to be truly sincere. And now at 40 years old, I'm not even sure how I would find new friends. I swear sometimes days go by and the only thing I do outside the house is bring the kids back and forth to school or go to the grocery store. lol. I wish I had a sister. Every time my daughters bicker, I remind them how lucky they are to have each other.

[Jia]

I wish I had a sister. Every time my daughters bicker, I remind them how lucky they are to have each other.

You can have one of mine. The younger one. My older sister is amazing, but I would trade my younger sister for a nickle, or a shiny paperclip. LOL!

[veganmama]

At this point I would pay someone to take my sister off my hands. She's being one of the crazy women nowadays.

[fletchmom2]

Aww Jia! She's not that bad is she?! LOL Me and my sister used to bicker like that and my mom used to say the same thing. I didn't understand until now!

[Theresa]

You can have one of mine. The younger one. My older sister is amazing, but I would trade my younger sister for a nickle, or a shiny paperclip. LOL!
Lol, Jia! I have three girls! Whenever I tell them how lucky they are to have each other they just look at me like I'm crazy!

[Jia]

My sister is 24 years old and cannot count the number of men she's slept with on both hands! She's been dumped before because the guy "didn't just want sex." She left a Marine at the altar for some guy she met at a night club, and everything she owns she's stolen. Those are just a number of her qualities. LOL because she's also crazy!

Of course she makes me look frickin' awesome! LOL!

My big sister is absolute perfection though, makes me look like the crazy one LOL!

[lamairs81]

I'm glad I seem to have gotten all the crazy women outta my life...and mostly before HS (minus one friend I ran into a few years back who ended up rooming with us for a bit...let's just say I believe she swallowed a mixture of bleach & softscrub the night before we were gonna drop her off at a shelter to get us to change our minds or something :-s). I love my 3 BFFs from HS, my SIL, and her "sis" to death. Now if we could just get a bit more time together. :001_302: Only one of my many goals to achieve.

[shoppingmamma]

My sister is 24 years old and cannot count the number of men she's slept with on both hands! She's been dumped before because the guy "didn't just want sex." She left a Marine at the altar for some guy she met at a night club, and everything she owns she's stolen. Those are just a number of her qualities. LOL because she's also crazy!

Of course she makes me look frickin' awesome! LOL!



uuummmmmm......YIKES!!!!!

[veganmama]

My sister is 24 years old and cannot count the number of men she's slept with on both hands! She's been dumped before because the guy "didn't just want sex." She left a Marine at the altar for some guy she met at a night club, and everything she owns she's stolen. Those are just a number of her qualities. LOL because she's also crazy!

Of course she makes me look frickin' awesome! LOL!

My big sister is absolute perfection though, makes me look like the crazy one LOL!

Mine is 24 too and she's somewhere beyond one hand but still on two hands so far as I know. She was dating a guy and had sex with him once then never again because he was too soppy afterwards (he was a virgin at the time, I think he was her fourth or somewhere around that) but kept dating him for a few months till he dumped her. Now they're back together. They moved in together, got engaged about 2 months later, and now they're moving back in with their respective parents after about 3 months out on their own. No wedding plans that I know of yet; she told my husband that they're not going to plan anything for a year yet. Yes, she's best buds with my husband but hates me. She's also been telling everyone that my son is going to be ring bearer in her wedding but she hasn't asked me (difficult when you won't talk to someone) and I don't see how that's going to be possible.

My hubby and son are both only children and I really envy them at this point!

[Daisy2]

I have no friends in real life. I'm working on getting some but have yet to make them. Closest thing to a friend I have is my 4 year old sons teacher that comes over for coffee once a week

She would actually teach him if I didn't get the lesson out of the way before she showes up. So we all sit around drinking our coffee (son gets hot coco) and color at the table. (yes us adults sit and color onthe table sized color paper she gets from the school)

[katie]

Daisy, I love coloring.
I have a theory that says if you're too old to color...you're just too old. ;)

[Darla Shine]

That is so cute Daisy.

[acumpton]

I can totally relate to what you are saying on this one. I tend to be one of those people who makes friendships really quickly, but as soon as I see a trait or lifestyle of theirs that I don't agree with, I stop being as close to them. I have lost a few really good friends over this. Now I just pretty much keep my friendships at work and in my time off, I just focus on my family. I don't really have any girlfriends that I spend time with outside of work. Spending more quality time with my family seems to cause a lot less drama in my life, so it works out better for me.

[Hunny070]

I just had a fight with a close friend... one of those.. flipping out , out of nowhere fights. I kind of felt sort of alone. I don't have a lot of friends, so when I am nice to someone and let them in and they do that. It makes me not want to create new friendships. Cause women are CRAZY... So anyways your post made me feel better. I'm not the only one getting flipped out on..

[tanya_76_ozmum]

Yes women really are crazy, thats life....I dont like conflict so i take a step back i also dont like to be stuck in the middle of things, it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and that makes me want to take a step back too....Somtimes you never know who to trust. Just keep your self open but dont give too much out till you think you realllllllly know them...but even then you can still get burned.:29:

[Darla Shine]

That is how I feel. I have tried to help so many people and it has only bit me in the tushy. But now that I am older and stronger when I learn someone really isn't my friend I just break away. Why on earth keep someone in your life who doesn't like you or want to be in your circle? I think we want the closeness of good girlfriends. It really is so sad that this happens.

[Caroline Stanley]

This is what I love about my age. I'm stronger and more sure of myself. I don't like to waste time on people who are continual emotional drains on me and I really despise users who are only out to take advantage of me or my family's generosity. One of my favorite sayings is "garbage in, garbage out". I don't hang on to it. Purge the garbage (I'm not calling any women garbage...only the crap that might be following some) and get on with being happy. For us girls in our 30's and 40's, I think it's truly important to prioritize what and who is important to us and if something or someone doesn't make the cut, then move on and don't hold onto guilt or anger. A couple of cents-worth from your favorite farmchick. ;)

[fletchmom2]

This is what I love about my age. I'm stronger and more sure of myself. I don't like to waste time on people who are continual emotional drains on me and I really despise users who are only out to take advantage of me or my family's generosity. One of my favorite sayings is "garbage in, garbage out". I don't hang on to it. Purge the garbage (I'm not calling any women garbage...only the crap that might be following some) and get on with being happy. For us girls in our 30's and 40's, I think it's truly important to prioritize what and who is important to us and if something or someone doesn't make the cut, then move on and don't hold onto guilt or anger. A couple of cents-worth from your favorite farmchick. ;)

In my young life I have learned this and I couldn't agree with you more!!!

[Caroline Stanley]

I'm so glad, Tabatha! You're a decade younger than me! I have to say that I see far too many women your age and mine who are holding on so desperately to bad relationships with other women. Why do they do this to themselves? I've been there and this life is far too precious to waste a bit of it! Wasn't it Susan Powter, the bald diet lady, who told us to stop the insanity? :6:

[fletchmom2]

Yeah I think so and she's absolutely right! And not to mention it just really is a waste of time! I could be spending my time much better either speaking with you ladies or spending it with my children than stressing myself out over something so stupid. If I want drama I'll watch Days of Our Lives! HaHa!

[GeeksWife]

words to live by Caroline.

[GeeksWife]

Yeah I think so and she's absolutely right! And not to mention it just really is a waste of time! I could be spending my time much better either speaking with you ladies or spending it with my children than stressing myself out over something so stupid. If I want drama I'll watch Days of Our Lives! HaHa!

Amen!

[Caroline Stanley]

:6: Amanda!! Missed you, Girl!

[shoppingmamma]

Have you read the book Queen Bees and Wannabes??? Or Mean Girls? For teens I think but can be applied to adults as well......very interesting reads ~ I could see people I "know" being described.....

[GeeksWife]

:) thanks! I'm catching up on everything internet related and getting back into the swing of things. I missed you all!!

[Caroline Stanley]

Jill, I've not read either but I did see the movie, Mean Girls. Appalling, at best.

[adivino]

Have you read the book Queen Bees and Wannabes??? Or Mean Girls? For teens I think but can be applied to adults as well......very interesting reads ~ I could see people I "know" being described.....

I haven't read them. What are they about? I've seen the movie Mean Girls...loved the ending!

[shoppingmamma]

Caroline and Andrea.....if you've seen the movie you get the jist of the book - Queen Bees and Wannabees is basically a guide for parents/teens for dealing with the catty high school girls....it talks about cliques, how a queen bee will put down others/manipulate them/lie whatever to stay on "top" and be the Queen, etc.....the book has ways to deal with it .....I just thought it was funny that it's written for teens - as is the movie Mean Girls but really some of the types describe and situations could totally be appllied to adult women ....I've seen it alot in playgroups/moms club, PTO, online groups - I've tried out several - cafemom/yahoo groups/etc...... just proves I guess that some never grow up or get out of high school so to speak.....

[curley]

Wow...you just described several women I know. It is really sad. I guess maybe highschool/jr high was their prime and so they stay that way? I do my best to avoid women like that. They bring me down.

Caroline and Andrea.....if you've seen the movie you get the jist of the book - Queen Bees and Wannabees is basically a guide for parents/teens for dealing with the catty high school girls....it talks about cliques, how a queen bee will put down others/manipulate them/lie whatever to stay on "top" and be the Queen, etc.....the book has ways to deal with it .....I just thought it was funny that it's written for teens - as is the movie Mean Girls but really some of the types describe and situations could totally be appllied to adult women ....I've seen it alot in playgroups/moms club, PTO, online groups - I've tried out several - cafemom/yahoo groups/etc...... just proves I guess that some never grow up or get out of high school so to speak.....

[Caroline Stanley]

Crazy, Jill! Well, popularity's never been an issue for me, in high school or now. I've never been the most popular, ever, in my almost 37 years on this earth. Of course, I like to be liked, but certainly don't put down others/manipulate/lie, etc. to be part of the "in" crowd. Hey, the way I see it, I AM my own "in" crowd. ;) If other nice girls want to be part of it, then that's really lovely, but not necessary, at all.

[Jia]

Same here Caroline. I was always the sidekick of the popular girl. That's why when Matt (who was in my eyes the hottest guy in school) said he was in love with me, I nearly died of shock! Totally thought it was a joke or something!

[fletchmom2]

I wasn't the most popular but I had my fair share of popularity. I was just one of the few that didn't put people down, bully, or lie to keep it that way. I was popular by way of putting myself in leadership roles like Drum Major for the Marching Band, Vice-President of Concert band and things like that. But here's the thing...when I left high school I left all that behind and I think its sad that most women can't do that. I mean really what's that teaching their own children!?

[Knit Mom of 3]

Funny thing that I have witnessed in my own life is a lot of those clique-y girls become clique-y moms and encourage their children to be clique-y too!

Sad really.

[Caroline Stanley]

Yup, Andrea. I think you're right on the money with that!

[vicentec]

Andrea, the same author who wrote Queen Bees and wannabes also wrote wrote a book Queen Bees grow up! Some parents are worse than the kids! A friend of mine decided to move her daughter from Catholic School to public school precisely because of that! Crazy! Those books are on my to-read list...

[Knit Mom of 3]

Thanks for the heads up! I didn't realize she had written an adult continuation of the concept. I will have to see if my library has it!

[Seashell]

This was funny to read, everyone talks about how crazy women are. They are gossipy and bitchy and caddy...

We are crazy!

[vicentec]

Correction: The name of the book is actually Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads. I confused it with "Mean Girls Grow Up", which is by another author, although on the same subject.

[akahousehold6]

Women really can be crazy!!! It's like we (generalized we) have an inherent "bitchy gene". Some have several LOL

Reminds me of the MOMFIA, partial definition per the urban dictionary:
[/URL][URL="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=momfia#"] (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=momfia#)a group of females from all over the U.S. that are mothers that like to create drama online and off line in other mothers lives...................

[Darla Shine]

I love that 'MOMFIA' word. Hysterical.

[may20]

I'll need to check out those books. My DD is moving into that age bracket where the cliques are beginning to form. While she desperately wants to be liked, she doesn't conform, and she wears her heart on her sleeve. We'll need battle tactics for her (not that I'm calling them that to her). I hated the cliques of jr. high and early high school. I don't want her to suffer like I did with that.

[Theresa]

I'll need to check out those books. My DD is moving into that age bracket where the cliques are beginning to form. While she desperately wants to be liked, she doesn't conform, and she wears her heart on her sleeve. We'll need battle tactics for her (not that I'm calling them that to her). I hated the cliques of jr. high and early high school. I don't want her to suffer like I did with that.
My daughters are 12, 13 and 15 and I cannot believe some of the stories they come home and tell me. Some of these girls today are beyond mean, and they have no remorse for the things that they do. It's so incredibly sad.

[may20]

My daughters are 12, 13 and 15 and I cannot believe some of the stories they come home and tell me. Some of these girls today are beyond mean, and they have no remorse for the things that they do. It's so incredibly sad.
I so desperately want to homeschool them through this stage. I don't think my kids should live in a bubble, but to subject them to the immoral cruelty of others when they are still so tender just seems wrong to me.

Anyway, I just walked in from the library with Queen Bees and Wannabes. If I think it'll be helpful long-term, I'll buy it.