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Darla Shine
06-14-2009, 10:17 AM
You stupid mother who sent you caughing, sick child to my son's pool party last night, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?

First off this child is a nice boy. I like him. He showed up caughing so much that he was caughing while he was eating. I asked him if he had the flu, all the children know our district is infested with swine, (So obvious this kid has it) He says he had bronchitis earlier in the week.

It was about 65 degrees out and drizzling but I went forward with my son's end of the school party, hey boys, a little rain, no big deal. So the boys all go into the pool and so does this kid. Then he swims to the side and hold on to the edge and has a caughing attack.

I call his mother. "Your son looks miserable and is caughing a lot." Oh he had bonchitis this week (LIE) I say "well its cold out and if he was sick all week should he be in the pool, out in the rain?" Oh he is fine she says. I say "well I don't want to embarass him but maybe you should think of an excuse and come pick him up" Oh-Oh, well let me talk to him.... "he is in the pool (I don't want him using my phone) Oh she says, I will call him on his cell.

Okay moron he is in the pool and so how can he hear his cell.

My choices, tell her to come and get this kid out of my backyard, embarassing the kid and mine....

Two, hope as a caring mom she would come pick up her child.

So my mother who is there says since all the boys are outside in the fresh air its at least better than in school where he probably was breathing all over the kids all week.

So, she showed up at 10 pm which was the pick up time. I wanted to punch her. I was nice but I told her 'the poor kid probably should have been home with a nice bowl of hot soup in his bed and I walked away.

Lets say this kid really had bronchitis why would you let him go to a pool party while he is still caughing?

The truth is this mother has stigma.. now having swine has gotten this scarlet letter on it. Which is so dangerous. People don't want to say they have it and worse yet, don't want to believe they could have it.

If over 100 kids in Connor's school are out with the flu, now, what on earth is going to happen next fall? There is a 50% rate of kids out in Hannah's grade with the flu. I kept her home all week. The doctors are calling it a flu, no one is getting swabbed, but the virus is growing and mutating.

Mothers are sending their kids back to school caughing because they have to work. One mom I know sent her kid to school with lice because she had to work.

I know some single mothers HAVE to work but a lot of these moms I know are working for extra spending cash so they can get an inground pool or shop at bloomingdales. And that is fine. But, when you give your kid tylenol to bring his fever down because you need to go to work, your kid sits next to my kid, and then its a problem I have to deal with.

Right now, every woman, every mom, has to think about everyone elses kid before this flu kills us all.

Really, if we can't stay home for a week while we are sick, we are really selfish.

When I was younger my mother would let my body rest and recover. If I had a fever she would say, you need to stay home and let your body rest and recover. Now these kids have a fever in the morning and are on the baseball field at night, GOD forbid, a kid misses an activity. God forbid the kid misses a pool party.

harryshoney2002
06-14-2009, 11:08 AM
I know what you mean. Knowing that it's out there is scary. If my cousin does leave us I am going to be scared t go funeral. She will brought back here if that happens to be buried. She had it for close to a month before she was even tested. All of my family that was able to go down there has been exposed to it. I have 3 kids. One is a 7 month old and I cant risk passing it to her. I dont know if it would've helped to know sooner what she had but it would've help everyone that came to be with her. Maybe they could've protected themselves some how.

Jessakeena325
06-14-2009, 11:49 AM
Darla, that's outrageous! I could never imagine doing that to my kid. I remember as a kid, if you got sick, you missed stuff. It stunk, but it's life. My mother would do something special for me if I missed a party, a favorite movie, a special treat. I can't believe the gall of some people!

I hope your kids don't catch anything!!! And I hope all the kids at the party stay healthy!

keltie
06-14-2009, 12:10 PM
That is unimaginable that she would send him in the first place, yet alone not come get him when you called!! She should be ashamed.

Darla Shine
06-14-2009, 12:48 PM
I feel bad that I called her stupid. I don't like being negative. But I am just really annoyed.

Theresa
06-14-2009, 02:01 PM
I would have been annoyed too. And if it was one of my kids, they would have stayed home to rest and missed the party.

fletchmom2
06-14-2009, 02:02 PM
I totally have to agree with you Darla! The only time I have sent my son to school with a stuffy runny nose is when I knew it was allergies! Even doctor confirmed allergies! I have NEVER sent my child to school sick and nor do I intend to in the future. Its VERY disturbing that mothers can't take the time to take care of their sick children because it cuts into their time or if they miss something their kid will not be as popular! Its truly sad.

judesmama
06-14-2009, 03:41 PM
Awful. Even if the kid "only" had bronchitis, he should've been at home, resting. I don't understand why we push our kids so much... sometimes my friends laugh at me when I tell them I am staying in because my little guy has a slight fever/cough/runny nose - whatever. I do it because a) I want my guy to feel better and b) I don't want to infest the population!!! Not fair. Now what? You ahve to wait to see if all the rest of these kids get sick?? Great!

Ann77
06-15-2009, 07:02 AM
Ugh.

I don't get this, because a pool party is optional, and most people aren't using it like a daycare so they can go to work (like school).

She didn't want to embarrass him? Did she think sending him to a party like that wasn't embarassing?

Darla Shine
06-15-2009, 08:11 AM
I feel better now that I changed the title thread. I am trying to be positive even when I am angry. It is hard.

ruthieshome
06-15-2009, 10:56 AM
It just all makes me sad.... so sad... poor child, and poor mother.... does she not know any better? Does she not care if her child gets worse? Its all just beyond my thinking. I just don't understand. Maybe she was just having a bad day. Maybe he is ALWAYS sick and she is use to it... ... but still. blows my mind... i just don't get it.

lauramt
06-15-2009, 11:20 AM
I just don't think some moms get it.

I have a GF who sends her kids out and about when they are sick. I told her that she was exposing other kids to her kids colds. Her response was this "they are going to get exposed anyway, it's no worse than touching a shopping cart at Wal-Mart." ?????? Really? I finally stopped hanging out with her because I was tired of my kids getting sick all the time from her kids.

fletchmom2
06-16-2009, 12:17 PM
I know what you mean Laura. My BIL and SIL always have their kids out when they are sick! I mean granted their kids are always sick but I think its because their kids never get the proper rest, sick or not. They are ALWAYS travelling and have no regards for the kids and their well being. So they are always snotting and coughing and sneezing all over my kids. Thankfully my kids have strong immune systems and rarely get sick, but still!

ArmyWifey
06-17-2009, 05:22 PM
oh wow Darla! I don't blame you for being upset! I get so irritated when people bring their sick kids to a gathering 1. the poor child should be resting, 2. do I want my kids getting sick too? NO!

Whenever my kids would have even a mild cough or sniffles, I'd skip out on things, just because I don't want to get others sick kwim? Even if they are okay to go, I do it out of common courtesy for the other parents & children.

Caliwife
06-17-2009, 08:16 PM
That mother should have known better than to have sent her son to the party and how the heck did he enjoy the party being sick anyway?

On another note, when I used to work years ago, adults always came to work sick so they would not use up all their vacation time and everyone in the office would pass around the flu, truly selfish!!

may20
06-19-2009, 04:00 PM
I sent my kid to school this spring with a stye. I knew it was a stye -- he gets them as part of his allergies. The school called convinced he had pink eye. I said nope, it's just a stye. They wanted to call the nurse from her other school to look at him. Fine, I say, but it's really just a stye. My kid missed gym and recess waiting for the nurse. She called me and said, yes, it's just a stye, and your son knows what to do to make it better (hot compresses). I thanked her because I know that they were having issues with pink eye earlier in the year. She said that lots of parents were sending their kids to school with obvious pink eye. It's just cruel, I think, to intentionally send a sick child to school (or any other activity). The sick kid needs rest, and the other kids don't need to be exposed.

Fabian
06-28-2009, 03:06 PM
That is a really irresponsible thing to do. Now they are barely even testing for swine flu over here, as lots of people have it. In the winter,this will be a nightmare.

In this country though, things are really still quite mild (I mean, flu is nasty and horrible, but we haven't got people dying everywhere)

If he did have this flu, then maybe the best time for your kids to be exposed would be now? In the autumn/winter this virus will become so virulent and destructive it maybe would be actually physically better to get it now?? If it got to the serious pandemic levels which are truly frightening, a little mild exposure previously which builds immunity, you would thank your lucky stars for!!

Just a thought, although sending a sick child to a party is not the best mothering I have heard of! should have been tucked up on the sofa with duvets and dvd's eating homemade soup in my opinion.

InkelyWinkely
06-29-2009, 10:13 PM
I feel the same way...Why would you allow your sick child to be out in public wanting to have fun, but getting worse while trying to do that?

Every time the ex send punk here, he is sick as a dog...she wants him nowhere near her- she ay get sick and miss work. Then, she couldn't afford brand name clothes, a brand new car, tattoos, or clubbing.

Some parents just piss me off. I can't wait until I have a kid, so that I can protect them from idiots like this.